Dropping the Complain Game

Daily Thoughts and Encouragement for January 29, 2015 

Dropping the "Complain Game"

We all know that person who just can't seem to find the good in anything. Maybe it's a parent, sister, friend or even us. The person who seems to focus on the bad in everyone and anything. The one who uses Gossip in an effort to rebuild self-esteem. 

To someone who lives outside of this lifestyle- the solution seems easy. But to those who live it, it is almost an addiction; one that takes time and incremental steps to overcome. It is not something that can simply be undone. It is a process that requires accountability and regular self-assessment. 

The bible addresses having a "critical spirit". Philipians 2:14-15 is direct in addressing this issue. It says: 

Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless

and pure children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation. 

Further, Ephesians 4:2 states:

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

When we carry negative attitudes, it keeps us from learning and growing as Christians. It keeps us from enjoying the positive aspects of our lives. If we dwell on the negative- it will be only the negative that we see. Additionally- it reflects negatively on the Kingdom. When Jesus called us to bring people to the kingdom of God- I am sure that he wasn't calling us to nag them to death. 

To overcome this obstacle to faith, we must adjust our focus. Focus instead on the good and simple things in life. Appreciate the beauty of nature on your ride home from work. Laugh with small children, give love to an animal. Take the time to slow down and to focus on all that is good and in all that you are blessed to have. In this you will learn a healthy and peaceful mindset.  For some this may be difficult, but it is possible. It may even seem foreign or weird to do. In time, your mind will match your efforts. All that is required is that you take the first steps to change your attitude in life. 

In dealing with the negative person in your life- Show that individual love, patience and understanding. You may be the only beacon of hope for that person. Refuse to engage in gossip and negative talk, instead focusing on building up the strengths in the individual, and provide lots of opportunities for positive conversation. If this person has started the efforts to overcome the negative attitude, offer to lovingly hold the individual accountable. 

Remember, in Christ, all things are possible. 

God Bless!

-Alan